12 Steps Of A Sponsor


1. I will not help you stay and wallow in Limbo.


2. I will help you to grow, to become more productive, by your definition.


3. I will help you become more autonomous, more loving of yourself,
more excited, less sensitive, more free to continue
becoming the authority for your own living.


4. I cannot give you dreams or "fix you up", simply
because I cannot.


5. I cannot give you growth, or grow for you. You must
grow for yourself, by facing reality, grim as that may be at times.


6. I cannot take away your lonliness or pain.


7. I cannot sense your world for you; evaluate your goals for you,
or tell you what is best for you in your world,
for you have your own world.


8. I cannot convince you of the crucial choice of choosing the scary uncertainty
of growing over the safe misery of not growing.


9. I want to be with you and know you as a rich and growing friend;
yet I cannot get close to you when you choose not to grow.


10. When I begin to care for you out of pity, when I begin to lose trust in you,
then I am toxic, and bad, inhibiting for you, and you for me.


11. You must know-my helping is conditional; I will hang in there with you
as long as I continue to get even the slightest hints that
you are still trying to grow.


12. If you can accept all of this, then perhaps we can help each other to become
what God meant us to be-mature adults-leaving childishness
forever to the little children.


~ Anonymous ~


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